How to Break Free from Feeling Stuck

The most important lesson I’ve learned from last year is that feeling stuck can lead you to a place you never thought existed. It’s a sensation that arises when you’ve stayed in one place for too long. Not necessarily a horrible place, but imagine standing still at the same spot, seeing the same thing, your limbs becoming stiff, and your flesh decaying. This is just imagery because feeling stuck feels worse than being caged without food, human contact, or a sense of time.

However, feeling stuck is just a feeling. In reality, we can always do something about it. It’s not as easy as it sounds because I know how it actually feels. Whatever you do may not seem to change anything, even when you think you’ve tried everything on the list.

This post is not about how to unstuck yourself—the key is in your hands. But I can share three things to remember to ease your journey. These things have moved me little by little, one step at a time, towards a beautiful place I never thought existed.

Let Go of Your Ideal Life

Sometimes we get too carried away with ideals and perfectionism, which makes us depressed. A goal too high always seems unattainable, and miracles don’t happen to everyone. For example, a million dollars and Prince Charming don’t always fall from the sky.

You may feel stuck because you’re always in your own head, worrying and obsessing. It might be that your perfect life is something different, something you’ve never imagined, and feeling stuck is just one step away from discovering it. So, sometimes it’s best to give up and embrace your current spot. Be calm. Be content. Be patient.

Write

When you feel bad, most of the time, you are not aware of your feelings, but there are impulses struggling and resisting inside. I write all the things in my head onto paper when I feel overwhelmed. I pour every little detail, the bad and ugly—uncensored. It makes me self-aware of my own emotions and the pattern of my reaction to circumstances.

Writing things down is not just therapeutic; it’s a thinking process. It’s visualising my thoughts in the physical world and helps me see them from a different angle, so I can identify the loopholes more clearly.

Pro tip: You can always throw the paper away later if you worry about someone finding it.

Do the Smallest Thing

Write a list of things you can do to change your life. Start with the smallest step and celebrate every ‘move’. Sometimes, you won’t have a clear picture of how these micro-movements will lead you, but listen to your heart with gratitude. Just remember and feel that YOU ARE MOVING!

That’s all from me. I really hope I’ve helped someone today. Whatever you’re feeling, remember that you’re not alone. Talk to you later.