Like all the other minimalists, I write
Hello. I’m A’ishah Kamaludin, from Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. This is my personal blog.
Minimalism and Personal Development
This blog is about minimalism and simple living, it also records insights and snippets on my journey to become a better person.
Who am I?
I am a self-made writer, actually a geophysicist 9-5, a speaker (recently spoke at one TEDx event and can’t help but to feel so proud about it) and more importantly I am a mother of two beautiful kids. My kids are #1 on my priority list.
My life is smooth and not so smooth at the same time. I guess that’s how life really is for everyone, fluctuating at its best.
The way we describe our life depends on how we prioritize.
I was an always-A student – received a scholarship, graduated and straight away landed myself a good job in the country. I got married early and safely delievered two cute babies. Life was great. My husband (now ex) followed whatever the hell I said until he divorced me a few years ago.
That was the deepest mark on my smooth sailing early life.
I was depressed. I was overwhelmed. My life falling apart. The divorce affected every inch of my life. My social life. My job. My physical appearance. (Somehow) My interests and intelligence. It made me feel zero, living in the nothingness.
However, I know that I have to stay strong for my kids. After dwelling in the ‘hole’ for a few months, I tried to climb myself up, rebuilding myself. Just like death, the divorce ended my life – but I was reborn.
Minimalism is one of my answers. It helps me to stay focus in drawing the line of importance and distraction. It keeps me away from comparing myself with other people – not just around possession but also status – who/what/where I am in my life.
People always say that I have the IDGAF face – some say it’s a model face (which I later translated into a temporary modeling career, just for the sake of tasting). Minimalism materializes that face into my being. It stops me from giving an F about what other people think or say about me. That is a very valuable trait/skill that we need in the fast pace of communication era where we always know what other people are up to and how they live their life.
My message to you
Focus on yourself instead of your possession – external and material things. Don’t do things just to impress others, and don’t stop doing something because you’re worried about what other people think about you.
Minimize your distractions, maximize you.