30 Life Lessons for a Meaningful Life

It’s my birthday month. Guess my age? Duh.

These are my 30 most valuable life lessons up to this point. (This might change in the next decade, who knows?) Let’s get into them!

1. You can do anything you want. Try everything, but choose a few (one or two) to focus on. Choose the right thing, know your calling. Do your best at those things, and you’ll be great. Here’s how: Experiment with different activities and passions to find what truly excites you.
2. If you can’t change the game, change the rules. Better yet, quit the game and play your own. Life isn’t always fair, and sometimes the conventional path isn’t suitable for you. Create your own opportunities and define success on your terms. This way, you’re not limited by existing constraints.
3. Marriage is a contract. Love is a verb. Happiness sparks from within. Understand that marriage involves mutual agreements and responsibilities. Love requires action, not just feelings. Your happiness shouldn’t solely depend on others; cultivate it from within through self-love and self-care.
4. To be beautiful is very important. We love by what we see; it’s shallow, you might think. But good news – just like happiness, beauty also comes from the inside. To be beautiful is to be happy. True beauty radiates from within when you are content and happy. Focus on inner qualities like kindness, compassion, and confidence, which enhance outer beauty naturally.
5. Less is more. Less is better. Less is best. Pardon my English, it rhymes. Embrace minimalism. Owning fewer things can lead to a simpler, more fulfilling life. Quality over quantity should be the mantra. For instance, instead of having numerous items, invest in a few high-quality pieces that bring you joy and utility.
6. Fear is always the fuel. It’s not necessarily bad. Use fear as motivation rather than a deterrent. Fear often indicates that something is important to you. Channel this energy into preparation and action to overcome challenges and achieve your goals.
7. Education vs. determination? Determination! Have both if you can, but the latter is enough to burn the passion. While education provides knowledge and skills, determination drives you to use them effectively. Grit and persistence can lead to success even without formal education.
8. The more you’re affected by other people and your surroundings, the harder it is to be in control. Learn to say NO. You own yourself. Your time is precious. Make only good investments. Set boundaries to protect your time and energy. Saying no allows you to focus on what truly matters and prevents you from being overwhelmed by others’ demands.
9. Opportunity hides somewhere unpredictable. Sometimes, learn to say YES. Be open to new experiences and opportunities, even if they seem daunting or out of your comfort zone. Saying yes can lead to unexpected and rewarding paths.
10. You don’t need too many handbags, shoes, and lipstick colours. You actually use less than you own. Simplify your wardrobe and possessions. Focus on items that are versatile and bring you joy. This reduces clutter and decision fatigue.
11. Writing things down makes you aware of your own thoughts. It’s a good method to recognise your thinking pattern. Journaling helps clarify your thoughts and emotions. It’s a powerful tool for self-reflection, goal-setting, and personal growth.
12. Often, the things we hate about others are the things we hate most about ourselves. Use this insight for self-improvement. Recognise these traits within yourself and work on them. It’s a path to greater self-awareness and personal development.
13. You’re your worst enemy; learn to love and appreciate yourself more. Self-criticism can be detrimental. Practice self-compassion and acknowledge your strengths and achievements. Treat yourself with the same kindness you offer others.
14. It’s never too late to start anything! Age is just a number. Whether it’s a new career, hobby, or lifestyle change, you can begin anytime. The key is to take the first step.
15. With time, you’ll realise how much time you’ve wasted when you were younger, but stop regretting. Increase your productivity anytime, live NOW.
16. Do more, but also do less to enjoy this life. We’re not robots. We deserve slow mornings, slow vacations, beautiful sunsets, cups of tea or coffee, and good cuddles in bed with loved ones. Balance productivity with relaxation. Enjoy the simple pleasures of life and make time for yourself and loved ones.
17. Yes, we can do and enjoy more at the same time (if you have the right mindset). With a positive mindset, you can handle multiple responsibilities while still finding joy. It’s about perspective and balance.
18. Don’t worry about what other people think or say about you. You win when you don’t care or talk back about them. Who has time for that? Only the Ls. Focus on your path and values. Other people’s opinions shouldn’t dictate your actions or self-worth.
19. Materialism and consumerism are the rat race’s handcuffs. They also encourage comparison, leading to low self-esteem. Never ending! Avoid the trap of constantly wanting more. This endless pursuit can lead to dissatisfaction. Embrace contentment and value experiences over possessions.
20. Never compare yourself with other people. At least, cut that to the minimum. It’s OK to learn from others, but also acknowledge your strengths. Everyone’s journey is unique. Focus on your progress and celebrate your achievements instead of comparing yourself to others.
21. Create more, consume less. By consuming, you’ll take more of what society decides for you, whereas when you create, you build your sense of self. Creating builds confidence. Engage in activities that allow you to express yourself and contribute to the world.
22. You’re not perfect; be humble and learn from your mistakes. Embrace your imperfections and use them as learning opportunities. Growth comes from acknowledging and correcting your errors.
23. Often, the person we love the most receives the worst treatment from us. It’s very understandable – we trust them not to leave us because of our bad behaviours. It’s not fair to them. Learn to express gratitude and improve communication skills in our relationships. Make a conscious effort to treat your loved ones with kindness and appreciation.
24. Gratitude is the fuel for positive thinking and the good life. (The law of attraction) Practicing gratitude shifts your focus to the positive aspects of life. It enhances your overall well-being and attracts more positivity.
25. Loving is by giving. The more you invest in your loved one, the more you love and feel loved (vice versa). Acts of kindness and generosity strengthen bonds. The effort you put into relationships enriches both your life and the lives of those you care about.
26. Love is the backbone of success. You never did anything by yourself. Appreciate people who stay by your side and give you tremendous support. Recognise and value the contributions of others in your journey. Success is often a collective effort.
27. All of us will die someday. Life is short. Is this all worth it? Reflect on the transient nature of life. Ensure that your actions and pursuits align with your true values and bring you genuine fulfillment.
28. Find your priority. Know your values. Stay true to them. Identify what matters most to you and align your actions accordingly. This clarity guides your decisions and keeps you focused on what truly matters.
29. Learn new things every day. Continuous learning keeps your mind active and opens new possibilities. Embrace curiosity and seek knowledge in all forms.
30. A plan is nothing without execution. The next things will be willpower and patience. Work hard for 3 years, then harvest on the 4th, 10th, or 15th – I’m not sure, but ‘Deploy Patience’. Planning is essential, but so is taking action. Combine determination with patience to achieve long-term success.

Btw, my birthday will be on 8th March if you want to send anything to me. I appreciate e-books, self-help courses, lunch/dinners, once-off cleaning/maid services, movie tickets, or spa/salon/facial vouchers, also good wishes and prayers. No physical things (read: clutter). Thank you!